every time i play multiplayer Toribash crashes i can open the multiplayer menu fine and i can join games without any problems but, after a new match starts the game freezes for a few seconds then crashes. Can someone help me with this?

Can you attach the crash.txt file from your toribash folder to the thread

i cant find any crash.txt but, this is the closest thing i found to an error report:
Unable to open audio: DirectSoundCreate: No audio device found
parse_cmd no op found POINTBODIES 0; 100 70 50 50 90 15 20 20 15 20 20 0 0 15 15 20 20 20 20 0 0

parse_cmd no op found POINTJOINTS 0; 100 70 50 50 90 15 20 20 15 20 20 0 0 15 15 20 20 20 20 0

parse_cmd no op found POINTDM 0; 15000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 2000 2000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000

parse_cmd no op found POINTBODIES 0; 100 70 50 50 90 15 20 20 15 20 20 0 0 15 15 20 20 20 20 0 0

parse_cmd no op found POINTJOINTS 0; 100 70 50 50 90 15 20 20 15 20 20 0 0 15 15 20 20 20 20 0

parse_cmd no op found POINTDM 0; 15000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 2000 2000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000

parse_cmd no op found POINTBODIES 0; 100 70 50 50 90 15 20 20 15 20 20 0 0 15 15 20 20 20 20 0 0

parse_cmd no op found POINTJOINTS 0; 100 70 50 50 90 15 20 20 15 20 20 0 0 15 15 20 20 20 20 0

parse_cmd no op found POINTDM 0; 15000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 2000 2000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000 5000

Do you have a current version of the game? (4.5) It should have a crash log if the game's crashing.

yep, i got 4.5 i searched all of my toribash 4.5 folder for a crash.txt but i could not find it =/

Hmm... Can you see if the windows event viewer has it logged?

Control panel -> Administrative tools -> Event viewer

Then look in Windows Logs -> Application

Fingers crossed there'll be a log of TB crapping out.

also the file where i found the "error-report" was: stderr